Saturday, 11 April 2015

“Students, their Self-Esteem and Facebook ‘Likes’”– Professor M.S.Rao

"If you have real internal value, you don't need a loud, expensive imitation." —Denis Waitley

Presently college students in India are more interested in Facebook than in textbooks. They wake up from bed and check for updates in their Facebook accounts rather than to acquire knowledge from the textbooks. They regularly upload their photos in their Facebook accounts to get more ‘Likes’. They constantly search for their visibility in social media to assess their popularity by viewing at the number of ‘Likes’ they received. There is often a cut-throat competition among students to get more ‘Likes’. It is due to their age pressure and peer pressure. They often discuss with their friends in the classrooms about the number of ‘Likes’ they received to their uploaded photos. Girls are not behind boys at any rate. In fact, they are the trendsetters, not trend followers unlike boys who are trend followers behind girls.  Girls also upload their photos by wearing beautiful saris. At times they partially expose their bodies with their colorful outfits to get more ‘Likes’. Competition is cut-throat among the girls who intend to get more ‘Likes’ from their friends especially from their boyfriends. When they get more ‘Likes’ their egos are inflated. These girls often talk to other girls proudly about the number of ‘Likes’ they received from others especially from boys. Then the competition becomes cut-throat in girls.  

For spectators, it becomes difficult to distinguish between friend, boyfriend and lover in educational institutions as the line is very thin. It is a pity that the girls themselves are unable to distinguish between their boyfriends, friends and lovers as the equations in girls keep changing with the changing times, emotions, egos and feelings.  Friends become foes and vice versa. Is it a healthy trend in educational institutions?

Research shows that self-esteem in college students is very low which results in craving for more attention from others either for good reasons or for bad reasons. Unfortunately, it is mostly for bad reasons rather than for good reasons. Parents are busy with their family and financial challenges. Hence, they find it tough to pay adequate attention to their children. Increased nuclear families in India alienated children from their relatives. Children crave for love and affection from their parents. When they don’t get adequate love and affection, they crave from others especially from their friends in educational institutions. This is not a healthy trend and it needs to be checked earnestly by building self-esteem among the students.  Here are some tips to enhance self-esteem in students. 
  • Make use of your self-talk which plays a crucial role to boost your self-esteem. It is also known as inner dialogue. All human beings talk to themselves throughout the day. If they know how to make use of this time by thinking positively, they will be able to build their self-esteem. Hence, feed your mind with positive self-talk.
  • Believe in yourself. You are unique and God’s gift to this world. You are incredibly talented beyond your imagination. You have a huge potential which is unexplored. Hence, invest your efforts to unlock your hidden potential to achieve amazing success.
  • List out your strengths and weaknesses. Learn to leverage your strengths and guard from your weaknesses. Learn to operate from the area of your strengths.
  • Don’t look for external motivation. Acquire internal motivation to keep you energized throughout the day. Mark McKeon rightly remarked, "Don't worry about impressing others, impress yourself. Who are you trying to please, anyway?"
  • Have a big heart to appreciate good in others and be flexible to adapt the best from others.
  • Avoid people with negative attitude who poison your mind with their negative ideas and thoughts. Surround with positive people who bring in their positive energy that make you charged throughout the day with positive thoughts.
  • Remember that you are God’s gift to this world. Nido Qubein rightly remarked, "Total, unconditional acceptance of yourself is the first step in building a positive self-image."

I am one of the conscious citizens of this great nation with a huge responsibility to shape students as global leaders. My vision is to build one million students as global leaders by 2030 URL:  . Hence, it is my responsibility to play a crucial role to guide and groom students in a right direction. Although I cannot change the entire students I can bring change in some students by investing my time and sharing my thoughts on this growing global menace. Hence, I blogged this post. If you like this article and intend to help your friends build their self-esteem, please comment, ‘Like’ and share with your connections. Remember, one person can make the difference. That one person is YOU!

“Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish.” —Sam Walton

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